We can’t get away from it. Change is simply unavoidable. It’s not easy, and we often resist it. But the good news is, that it’s all part of our growing process: making us more flexible and opening us to new experiences and opportunities.
Whether you want to:
- Learn something new
- Exercise more often
- Drop a bad habit
- Become more social
- Show more vulnerability
- Reconnect with people that you care about
- Rid yourself of a toxic relationship
- Embark on a new career path
Here are 5 key things you need to know about change:
1. Identify what you want to change.
Ask yourself what you want to be different? Allow your mind to wander and consider the possibilities.
2. Keep your options open and get rid of negative self-defeating talk and thoughts. Concentrate on past successes and develop a "can-do" attitude.
3. Start small.
Imagine yourself eating an apple one little bite at a time versus stuffing the whole thing in your mouth at once. Consider every small step in the right direction a success!
4. Hold onto healthy relationships with family, friends and peers. Consider turning to them as needed for support, advice, guidance and security. Talking with someone else can help you clarify your options and stick with the change you are making.
5. Stay focused on what is important to you and avoid getting distracted. Make a plan and stick to it. Use tools to help you stay focused such as noting and appreciating successful steps andfrequently reminding yourself of your goal.
Change requires committed action and at times can be hard. If despite your best intentions, and following the tips above, change is overwhelming and anxiety provoking, seek out a therapist that can help. Your empowerment and growth are well worth it.
