Taking the initiative to work on your relationship is a big step in the right direction. You are not alone. I can help you in this journey.
Family, friends or significant-other relationships have a profound effect on our self-view and on our interactions. Research shows that our individual well-being is directly related to our relationships’ well-being: relationships can be a source of strength, security and happiness, yet they can also be a cause of deep pain, disappointment and loss.
Maintaining good committed relationships is challenging. They require adjustments, frequent evaluations and fine tuning, which we can often do by ourselves. However, there are situations that in spite of our best intentions, a problem persists, and we need the help of a therapist.
People often stay in an unhappy relationship for years prior to seeking therapy. Frequently, by then, much damage has occurred; there is significant emotional distance between the partners, trust has been breached, and there is often much anger and resentment present. The longer the wait the more entrenched the negative behaviors become and the more effort it can take to get back on track.
While each case is unique, there are certain red flags to look out for, that indicate that you may need relationship therapy:
- Your partner claims to hear what you are saying, yet you feel emotionally unheard.
- You are constantly fighting over pretty much everything.
- You regularly keep quiet and constantly suppress your feelings to avoid arguments.
- You sense that there is something not quite right with the relationship.
- You are excessively focused on the needs of your significant other at the expense of your own needs.
- You feel shame and helplessness within the relationship.
- You are embarking on a new relationship and want to learn how to give it the best chance possible of it working out well.
Drawing from various techniques to address each unique situation, I approach challenges in relationships with empathy based, solution-focused strategies. I focus on helping to create a healthy, satisfying connection, while repairing and strengthening the relationship.